there is you that others see. the public you. the you that is so much you that maybe even you don't recognize it is the put on you. you know, your game face. the my life is really tough so i am going to muddle right through it you. the i made this choice and i am going to see it through you. the committed you. the i can do this anyway you. the tough you. the i am fine you.
and then there is the you that you know. the yes i get mad you. the slide in your socks across the kitchen floor you. the sing out loud and slightly off key you. the hopeless romantic you. the you that secretly wishes you could just slow down a little bit and breathe. maybe even give the ideas swirling around your brain a safe place to come to fruition you. the you that doubts, wonders, cries, laughs, wants to believe. the you that wants to say out loud when you have made a mistake or changed your mind. the you that wants real.
who knows that person? do you have anyone in your circle that you fully let in? it is a vulnerable place to be. but if you are brave enough to allow it to happen - it is a really great thing. too many of us are walking through life with our game face on and truly missing connections that are valuable, conversations that are meaningful, relationships that are fulfilling.
how many of you have had the honor of someone reaching out to you to be that safe place for them and how many missed the knock because you were too busy being the you that you really aren't? not only are you missing out you are denying someone else what they need from you.
as we undoubtedly begin the busiest time of year i challenge you to take your mask off and be authentic. real. raw. vulnerable. open. accepting. pick one person you trust and open up. you don't have to proclaim you are going to now communicate your deepest darkest secrets. start small. have one conversation with no exaggerations or embellishments. just talk. real feelings. real thoughts. real dreams. real concerns. what do you have to loose?
Staci,
ReplyDeleteAn excellent recommendation and one we should follow. I have a person in mind too. While driving home I was considering how much we don't share because we fear the answer. The "eww" or the "Ha-ha, oh that is so funny, er, you weren't serious were you?"
Nothing malicious in either answer. Both would be truth for truth. But we cannot see past those answers to the next part of the conversation. "Well if that is how you feel about it what shall we do?" "Sorry I laughed, it seemed so unlike you. What else do you think?" Those are the things we forget about while we fear the initial reactions.
Thanks Staci.
Ad Astra Per Aspera,
Kevin
Awesome... I think this is a place or a you that we do not let anyone know, for we dont trust. It is that secret you that makes us and we protect it with all of our being. Its nice when you finally find someone to share this other you with. For we are carrying it around, that other you, that other voice, that other half of us. It gets heavy and after all we dont want to end up all alone with our mask and our private you. There is a lot of fear in letting this other person out to others. Yet when you do it is very spiritual and special. When you find that right person to share you private you with. There will be no fear and only a feeling inside of complete trust.. This to me is a Soulmate. We all derserve to share our other you with someone. But to do accomplish this we must Trust. Who will you trust today.
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