life is a series of road blocks, challenges, struggles, upsets, set backs, highs, lows, experiences, events, successes and the list goes on and on. many people way smarter than i have said in all sorts of flowery ways it is how we deal with life that really matters - and i suppose they are correct.
but every now and again i just have to stop for a second and whine. at least to myself. sometimes it seems like everything is stacking up and not very much is going right. i will not delve in to the details as they are really irrelevant to this blog. but i will propose this question:
are the lessons wasted if we rush into the 'everything is FINE' stage. (fine is one of my least favorite words in the english language. totally over used and means very little - unless you are speaking about the texture of one's hair. but i digress . . .) is it wrong to sit in a little puddle and lament and whine quietly about your personal situation? or is that being selfish, self-centered and inappropriate?
how do you ever grow if you do not take time to reflect when you are in the midst of a situation you would rather not be in? if i am a little whiny right now i apologize. i'd like to think i am reflecting on how i got here with the intention of not traipsing down this merry little road again. surely i am not just making excuses to be a wendy whiner. what i am sure about is IF i am being an inappropriate whiner my dear friends and family will jethro me back to reality in short order!
but every now and again i just have to stop for a second and whine. at least to myself. sometimes it seems like everything is stacking up and not very much is going right. i will not delve in to the details as they are really irrelevant to this blog. but i will propose this question:
are the lessons wasted if we rush into the 'everything is FINE' stage. (fine is one of my least favorite words in the english language. totally over used and means very little - unless you are speaking about the texture of one's hair. but i digress . . .) is it wrong to sit in a little puddle and lament and whine quietly about your personal situation? or is that being selfish, self-centered and inappropriate?
how do you ever grow if you do not take time to reflect when you are in the midst of a situation you would rather not be in? if i am a little whiny right now i apologize. i'd like to think i am reflecting on how i got here with the intention of not traipsing down this merry little road again. surely i am not just making excuses to be a wendy whiner. what i am sure about is IF i am being an inappropriate whiner my dear friends and family will jethro me back to reality in short order!
I see no problem with wallowing in your own sorrow, for a little while. You have to take time to feel the feelings, deal with the anger, shed the tears, whatever it may be before everything goes back to "fine." I too hate that word! As you know I've spend a good portion of the winter bouncing from wallow to fine and then back to wallow. Personally I think I spent way to much time wallowing. Now that I have begun to be proactive in my life again, doors are opening all over the place. So wallow, deal, put on your favorite "UP" music and find that smile. Go get 'em Staci!
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