choices. decisions. plans. lists. goals. requirements. payments. facts. figures. options. selections. the list is endless yet we seem to be tethered to it. there is the old adage stating there are only two things in life that are non-negotiable: death and taxes. although that is really over simplified we do give credence and attention to so many other things.
if there was just a slight change in the way we think about how we exist we might just find more time for the things we want to do, energy to get them done, focus to decide what truly is important and most certainly love to give away freely.
instead we get bogged down in the crap that we chalk up as life. but is that really life? i think not! life is meant to be lived. not drudged through with a sour face, a hateful disposition and a chip the size of the rock of gibraltar on your shoulder. lighten up francis! it is time to start living the good life.
i can already hear the naysayers throwing barbs that i do not live in reality, i am not realistic, life is hard, there are no easy answers, etc. and i agree. life is hard! but it doesn't have to be miserable. i have been accused of living in the present in a happy place referred to as my staci-dom. ok. i own that. but i gladly own it! and in case you were wondering - it is a great place that i have purposefully created. has my life been a bed of roses? i think not. it is a choice to live in the staci-dom. i think you should consider creating your own dom, your own happy life.
and if you struggle getting there that is ok too. rome wasn't built in a day you know. i am a mere comment away if you need a safe place to talk about how to get there. click on the yellow comment line and send me a note and we can talk off-line. it is time you create your own happy life.
You give lots of advise on how one should live their life. All of the advice appears to be directed to people that are alone, without a partner. Not people in a relationship. Do you believe that single people are happier, have more to live for, more to give? Is there not someone special that is there for you in "Staci-dom?
ReplyDeleteAll life is suffering, according to the buddhists. But not all suffering is misery. Happiness and sadness are all illusory, and to the unwise are separate rather than being faces of the same coin.
ReplyDeleteanonymous - i do not believe singles have more OR less to give. in fact, i beg to differ, as i think i write for all - whether in a relationship or single. i think people's happiness depends on their own self, soul and decisions they make - not on the status of their personal relationship. if i have led you to believe you need a mate or you do not need a mate then i need to rewrite my thoughts. although having someone special to evaluate the direction of your life would or could at very least make it easier, more palatable or even more pleasant to bear, the true test of a person is how they act, behave, conform, step boldly, while there is no one else around to watch, encourage or chastise. so, i stick by my original thought - it makes no difference if you are single or attached, you are who you are if you are true to yourself. if you are not true to yourself, i hope that you become so in time - for no one can keep that pace for long.
ReplyDeleteWell said staci as always. I think there has to be a true balance of Fun and Responsibility in life. Other wise we do get bogged down. I will say its aweful tough to find a balance when some of us have been alone all our lives. We battle with what is fun and what is serious. Will they ever be one in the same. There is a big difference in being lonely and being alone. I guess the ultimate goal for me is to find that Happiness with someone to share it all with. Thats just for me. Fully living Fun, Responsible, Ups and downs , twist and turns, its all life.. but going it alone is dreary.........I wish for that Happy Place.. that you talk about .. yet i must work at making it so.....Living life to the fullest
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